My daughter's school has an annual fundraising event which is a HUGE affair. It's the biggest event our school PTA throws each year and they typically raise a low six-figure amount. The amount of work that goes into it is astounding.
Each year my wife has spent an increasing amount of time on the auction, as she takes on a larger and larger role.
Two years ago it became a pretty big deal. She was spending a stupendous amount of time on that event and it impacted our family life. I was annoyed. I sulked, whined, ignored her, and generally made life even less pleasant around the house. Amazingly, that didn't solve the problem.
Last year I decided to not be an ass. I wasn't going to help her with the ridiculous burden she had undertaken, but I wasn't going to punish her for it either. She was clearly punishing herself enough.
This year? I give up. I can't beat her. I can't make the auction go away. So, against my better judgment, I'm actually helping her.
The moral of the story? Don't get married. It eats away at you from the inside.