I know quite a few sane and smart people who voted for McCain. He wasn't my candidate, but I completely understand why someone would vote for the guy. Maybe you like his experience, his political positions, or the cut of his jib. I get it.
Even on issues like abortion, I feel like there's a conversation that can be had, and common ground that can be found. We can talk about the best ways to reduce unwanted babies. We're all reasonable people, no? Yes.
War in Iraq? Health care? Educational standards? Progressive taxation? Global warming? I understand why folks would take a stance opposed to mine on any of these issues. We can have a meaty and respectful conversation with at least some data supporting both sides.
On the topic of gay marriage, however, I'm at a loss to find any common ground with the people who have voted to deny gays and lesbians the right to marry the people they love. I often debate myself in my head to find out if I can defend a position other than my own and I'm totally unable to do it with the anti gay-marriage position.
I understand that many people believe that the Bible condemns homosexuality. So, if you're a Bible literalist who interprets the Bible that way, you'd probably want to refrain from having gay sex. I get that. But the last time I checked we don't live in a theocracy. Have you looked around at the other theocracies in the world? Is Iran what you're hoping to turn us into? Or maybe it's Israel? That's a peaceful place too.
So, Bible literalists, please stop picking quotes out of your holy book and turning them into constitutional amendments, ok? I'm not really any more interested in having gay sex than you are, but you don't see me amending the constitution about it.
Now then, the people who voted for Prop 8 (the California amendment which denies gays the right to marry) who DIDN'T do it for Biblical reasons are even more incomprehensible. I understand that there's some fear that schools are going to "teach gay marriage". What does that mean? I don't recall my schools teaching anything about marriage. It's not really an issue that school children deal with. However, if the boogeyman here really is the specter of your children potentially being informed about the legality of two dudes getting married, then... uh... well, fuck, what's wrong with that? Feel free to tell your children that regardless of the legality of gay marriage, that your holy book says that it's wrong. Is that not a simpler approach here than amending my state constitution?
So, what is it? Why have the majority of Californians voted this way? Is it spite? Fear? Repressed homosexuality?
All I know is now that when I see my gay neighbors, co-workers, and friends, some of whom have been in long-term relationships longer than my 12 year marriage, all I can do is be ashamed of how this turned out.